Friendships are a Rare Treasure: How I Honor Them.

“A friend is one who knows you as you are and understands where you’ve been, accepts who you’ve become and still, gently invites you to grow.”    ~Anonymous

There is something of importance that I think the whole world should know that is precious and priceless — Friendship.

Recall the worst time of your life. Now try to remember that one person who stood by you in this hour of crisis. It could either be a parent, sibling or close friend. Chances are it was the latter.

Our friends are there for us, comforting reassuring and supportive. That’s what friends are about: providing constant support, they are our comforting confidants and our worst critics.

They are the family we choose!

Friends are people we love to spend time with. They give us company when we are lonely, support us unconditionally and accept us despite our shortcomings. They make celebrations fun, and they help us be ourselves.

“Friends are what make us uniquely human,” says James Fowler, professor of medical genetics and political science at UC  San Diego. “There is no other species that interacts so widely with other members of their species. So right away, you know that when you’re studying these relationships with friends, what you’re really doing is studying what makes us unique.”

Friendship is a beautiful feeling, in some ways–it’s magical! Friendship is understood and perceived as an equal relationship based on respect, honesty, trust, esteem and mutual availability.

Throughout my life I have travelled a lot, both for work and for my inexhaustible desire to learn, to explore. Travelling allows me to meet many people all over my county. So many friends who have also become my reference points. We keep in touch through the telephone, the most classic way, but also through messages and social networks… but nothing can replace the pleasure of meeting them again in person. Spending pleasant moments together is joyous.

Sometimes it happens that we do not see one another for some time. My schedule does not always coincide with theirs– but as soon as we meet again it seems that the time in between never existed. 

Friends are precious, irreplaceable, special. We can find friends anywhere–the people who work close with me have become my friends.

Friendship is a deep relationship, involving feelings which, if betrayed, can hurt more than any other because in friendship, as in love, you give everything, unconditionally. No expectations.

Friendship is understood and perceived as an equal relationship based on respect, honesty, trust, esteem and mutual availability.

Please stay in touch with your friends. A few key points I would like to share below which play important role in our crazy busy techie or business life (I call it crazy).

Be available.  Our busy lives make time a very precious commodity. Schedule regular time with friends and stay in contact via email, text, or phone calls.

Be a listener. When we truly listen to our friends, we are present. Don’t spend their talking time framing what you’re going to say next.

Be fun. The more fun we share with others, the more fun we have.

Be positive. People like to be around someone who makes them feel better, not someone who poisons their time together with toxic negativity.

“Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.”

– Khalil Gibran

Wishing you all a great Friendship Day, stay sweet, caring and spread love!


Hemant Malbari


Author: Hemant Malbari 

Image: Celestine Chua

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